There are many online resources about codependency and books written about the condition , but I didn’t know it was a mental issue for years. I mean, who wants to admit that they are “sick.” Many people are unaware of this mental illness, but it is very similar to alcoholism except, the addiction is to people and not alcohol. The book that helped me gain the most insight is “Codependent No More” by Melody Beattie. Her book is helpful to determine the signs of codependency.
In the dictionary, it states: “characterized by excessive emotional or psychological reliance on a partner, typically one who requires support on account of an illness or addiction.”
There were signs in me that I didn’t know were codependent traits such as depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, and self-worth. Other people’s health and happiness came before mine; now, that sounds like excellent qualities, but it came with a price. When you lose yourself in others, it’s unhealthy.
Groups such as Codependent Anonymous www.Coda.org can help you with the condition. These programs are for men and women who suffer from codependency. The goal is to give healing, recovery, and emotional support.
I learned from therapy and the groups that my sickness was developed from early childhood trauma and abuse. I didn’t want to believe this at first because, for many years, I was able to cope and function. Then I learned that well, I am a codependent.
By doing the 12 Steps program, I was able to move on, heal, and recover from the past traumas in my life. It’s not easy, believe me, it’s a lot of work, but it’s worth it. Not only was I able to heal, but I was able to get closer to God and rebuild my broken faith and soul.
Don’t believe that you can’t change or that you’ll always be that way; the truth is that you can change, grow, heal, and become the best version of yourself. Recognize the illness, take steps, and get help; it will be the best thing you ever could do for yourself and those who love you.
God has a purpose for you and your life, so “Let go, and let God.”
